As a mentoree, I am sure you are looking to be paired with someone you can get along with, someone who will not intimidate you, someone who is willing to help you, and someone who is willing to give you the time and energy that is needed for a mentoring relationship to work. However, there are several things as a mentoree that you can do to facilitate the process of your mentoring relationship. Several things to consider when you are a mentoree are:
- Try to look at things positively. You are there to learn and gather information from your mentor, so it is important to show them that you are a positive person and you are willing to be open minded.
- Make sure to go prepared to your meeting. It is important to show the mentor that you have taken the time to prepare some questions and/or concerns so that you are giving them the impression that you are not there to socialize but rather to learn from them.
- Listen to your mentor. It is important to show your mentor that you are taking in everything that they are saying to you. You can do this by asking questions, taking notes, or by looking at the mentor while they are speaking to you. Don’t forget to shut off your cell phone!
- Be honest with your mentor. It is important to let your mentor know how you are really feeing about them or about a concern that you may have. They are there to help and guide you and without your total honesty, it makes it a more difficult job for them. Being honest also helps you gain their trust and in turn it will enable you both to have an open relationship.
- Remember to thank your mentor after each meeting. It is a good idea to leave on a positive note and to leave your mentor feeling appreciated. Remember, most of the mentors are not being paid to be a mentor. They are volunteering their time and experience to help you gain a better understanding of your organization.
Have you sent your mentor a thank you note?